My husband got very mad and blew up?

my husband of 2 yrs blew up when i didnt go to his step daughters wedding friday!....his family never spoke a word to me since we have been married all i got was funny looks....waiting to see if i was going to speake first all that dumb stuff, never have ive been welcomed to this new family, no nothing, so when she called 2 weeks ago and invited me ....well you know how some people will talk to you a week befor the wedding..presents etc. i paid it no attention and tought i should just go!!, but on friday 5 hrs till the wedding, i just felt bad ,embarrased, i felt.. how could you do this and she never said a word to me for 2 yrs..told him that ,...he blew up,, he just wanted to show me off ,!,which is good but no resecpt for my feeling i would have gone if he did not blow up and call me names. thats when i shut down and stayed home all he had to do was say again......honey do this for me it will be fine!, do you agree? now i have been every name in the book by him and now hes tellin me what hes not doning for me! this sounds like control, he is controling! but this was the last ha- raaa!!!,..he really thought i would just end up folding into his family ,and truning my head to the way they have made me feel, not excepted, he really thought that was going to work without defending me as his wife!! this is abuse im out!!!!but what do you think of the way he blew up and disresecptd me ? all he had to say was please do this for me? and i would have!